A Family Fourth, Part 1

Like I said, we traveled on Mark’s birthday and enjoyed some awesome family time with fourteen of our closest family members.  DSC_1872 DSC_1875 DSC_1978 DSC_2001 Eighteen kids all lined up in a row.  In age order no less.DSC_2004 DSC_2009 DSC_2014 The two littlest cousins got to enjoy some food.

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Uno with Papa’s cousins.IMG_1273 Games are a definite fun part of our family time.

IMG_1312 So are books!IMG_2171 Ceili Rain and K were the “baby” sitters during family worship time.IMG_3401Little A learning to be a kitchen  helper.
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Sometimes connect four makes your eyes pop out!

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Fireworks on Base

Moving along to July!  I’m only three months behind now.  There is an end in sight!

We were so worried that our traditional fireworks viewing at a local military fort was going to be  canceled since we were heading out of town to visit family.  It’s usually held on July 3rd, Mark’s birthday.  We always say that everyone on base decided to celebrate Mark’s birthday with a bang.  Anyway, this year, for whatever reason, it was held July 2nd.  And ya’ll, for summer in the south…it was cold!  We were not prepared for the crisp, er, summer, air but we made the most of it and Y got to see professional American fireworks for the very first time.  DSC_1867 DSC_1869 IMG_20150702_204245774 Y and Bryant also got to check out some awesome army vehicles.  Considering that his home country is currently at war, we were a bit worried about how he would react at seeing soldiers and army vehicles.  In all appearances, he seemed to handle it very well and loved hearing the marching soldiers and seeing their equipment.  He begged Mark for pictures.IMG_20150702_204316933 IMG_20150702_204331869 IMG_20150702_204344535 IMG_20150702_222112785He was definitely impressed with the fireworks.
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Happy Eighth Birthday, Josiah!

In my haste to get caught up, I almost forgot to share Josiah’s birthday pictures!  This boy.  He loves his baby buddy, Emmie and is, definitely the spitting image of his daddy.  He is quiet and sincere and he is very tender to everyone.DSC_1820 DSC_1824 So, when my boy requested a specific Ninjago cake, I about cried.  I really wasn’t sure I could do it.  But, I am not one who wants to disappoint my babies.  So, I had a go at it with a little bit of help from the birthday boy.

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He approved.  Phew!  One down.  Three to go.

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June Randoms

Here is a feast for the eyes of our June and kids…DSC_1808 My reminder that they can get along.  At least when a camera is out.DSC_1830 Bags were the theme for this little lady.  She had a bag at every waking moment…and a few sleeping ones too.DSC_1835 DSC_1850 Y the brave is home…and it’s back to running around everywhere.IMG_20150605_165056_095 We were blessed with a load of curriculum from a graduated homeschool mom.  She wanted to bless a family that could use it to raise money.  This was our curriculum and hers combined.  With what I sold at our local used book sale and what I sold online, I made a good dent in our curriculum budget.IMG_20150607_105451_121 Sweet Emmie hugs.  If you had to have me name the number one negative thing about the halo it is not getting these.  We still get cuddles but they are nothing like this now.  Definitely something to look forward to next Spring.IMG_20150607_180446709Zoe met a storm trooper.
IMG_20150608_200534_279 More cuddles.  More bags.IMG_20150610_192537_430 And more  bags.IMG_20150610_193148_315 Did we mention she went through a bag phase?IMG_20150612_165918212 Ah, no bags…Water!  Another favorite.IMG_20150613_122440_494 And chocolate.IMG_20150613_122450_356 Chocolate is good.IMG_20150616_214413_582 With a couple of weeks before her new brace was complete, we had to go to desperate measures and try to mend some parts that were tearing (fyi, it didn’t work).IMG_20150617_140732_285 Snuggles.  Ah.  I loves them.IMG_20150618_164851_305 And Cindy Lou Who.IMG_20150619_131225_673 Learning to dip.IMG_20150620_182651_314More chocolate.IMG_20150626_085000_527 IMG_20150626_091223785

Learning to climb stairs.

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Enjoying some splash pad fun.

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Raising Funds

This is it.  The final waiting time before we start to travel to bring Y home!  That means we are at a final push to try and get our funds together to bring him home.  We still need about $15,000 which will cover our food, lodging, airfare and travel in country, as well as translator and facilitator fees and other government type expenses.

It is our heart’s desire that we can complete our adoption with out debt.  Emmie’s surgery in April pushed us to meet our out of pocket maximum for the year with insurance.  That was wonderful because it means all of our other medical (which wasn’t a lot until Emmie’s hospitalization in August) is free.  But, it’s not so great because if you have ever looked at your deductible and out of pocket max, you know that those numbers are not easy to meet (meaning very expensive).  That means our medical debt is slowly accumulating.  By the time we get this out of pocket met, Emmie will be looking at or will have completed her third surgery.  That means our deductible for next year will have been met and possibly our out of pocket maximum will be met again.  So, our desire to go debt free on this adoption is two-fold.  We know that Emmie’s medical expenses will continue to max out amount to pay and we really do not like going in to debt.  Before surgeries, we were blessed to only have house payments as our only debt.  Our cars are paid for.  If we use our credit cards to get the rewards, we pay them off each month.  We would prefer not to have any extra debt to burden our home and family.

With that being said, we are working hard at several fundraisers and even have friends out working hard too.  This next one, I am super excited about.

Most of you know I’m not a jewelry person.  But, when I saw these beautiful necklaces, I just couldn’t resist.  Mark purchased a necklace similar to these with Emmie’s life verse on it (Proverbs 31:25).  I love that necklace!  Handmade Hope was started to help bring home a beautiful daughter from China.  Now, Tina is reaching out to other adoptive families to help them bring home their beautiful children.  We were one of the blessed families chosen by Handmade Hope to participate in this fundraiser.

Check out what I got.  I am waiting, impatiently for them them to arrive in the mail (USPS decided to delay the shipment for some reason), but you can go to the website to check them out.

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For our Y the Brave

BraveAnd to add to Emmie’s necklace(which will be hers one day).

Each purchase made from Handmade Hope from now until September 30th will contribute to our adoption fund.  We will receive 40% of profits and if you mention our family adoption then we will receive 45%.  Our goal is to raise $500 through this fundraiser.

And for my Bama friends, you must check out these!

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Now is a great time to start shopping for Christmas and birthdays too! Click here to shop now.

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Summer Readings

Back to June.  I’m determined that I will catch up soon.  I have a work day coming up and there may be several days of photo dumps but by the end of the year this blog will be caught up.  I hope.

Our summer programs at our local library are wonderful.  The kids always enjoy trying to hit their goals as quickly as possible.  They can usually do it pretty fast too.  The library staff always works hard to bring in great local talent to encourage the kids to read.  This year was no exception.

Right after Y got home, we attended a summer music program from Dan the Mountain Man.  He told vivid stories.
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And sang several fun silly songs.  Then he had the kids create their own jug band.  My kids all volunteered and some got to participate.

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Since Zoe was the tallest kid there, she got “volunteered” to play the jug bass.

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This is what Y thought of the all children jug band.  Yeah, it was pretty noisy.IMG_20150630_152538_523Ceili Rain didn’t get to participate in the jug band but she did get to help with the finale.

 

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Welcome Home!

We didn’t think it was going to happen until Y actually got on the plane to come to America.  None of the 90 plus hosting families knew what God was up to.  There was a worldwide visa shutdown in June.  At first, they thought hackers had gotten in to the system but then later it was determined to be a computer glitch.  Regardless of what happened, it caused visa systems everywhere to completely shutdown.  No visas anywhere were being issued.

Y was scheduled to arrive on a Monday.  The Thursday night before, through tears, we read that there was nothing that anyone could do.  The systems were coming back up but they were slow and in Y’s country there were 39 plus people ahead of our kiddos.  We had begged, pleaded and finally contacted our congressional members who also did the same.  There was just nothing they could do.

We accepted this.  Trusted God had another plan and found comfort in knowing we would see him very soon.  But God.

Friday afternoon, I sat down to work quietly (something I get to do on occasion) at a coffee shop.  I pulled up my email and burst in to tears.  The embassy workers had agreed to come in on a holiday weekend to process our kids visas.  All of them.

And so, I got a bit emotional and almost tackled our poor Y when he came walking through the airport with a hint of a smile and excitement in his eyes.

IMG_20150629_131317_021 The car got covered in window chalk.  And Zoe made sure to put “Welcome to Y” in his native language.IMG_20150629_200634_389 Our flight attendants recognized several peoples shirts and came over to tell us how the kids did on the flight over.  They sweetly smiled for pictures and told us the kids really enjoyed coke.  Oh yay.IMG_20150629_201355 IMG_20150629_201420 Super excited sisters having fun with the camera while waiting.IMG_20150629_201551 Still waiting. IMG_20150629_200249820_HDR IMG_20150629_200254732 We totally forgot his welcome poster at home so I made Mark stop at a Walmart and the kids decorated one while waiting.IMG_20150629_201311246 Super excited Mama.IMG_20150629_202627181 Here they come!IMG_20150629_202653774 Yeah, I think he had a bit of trouble breathing and really wanted to see his brothers and sisters too but I had trouble letting go.IMG_20150629_202743613 IMG_20150629_202750149

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One of my favorite pictures.  Look at Malachi and that sweet little brother face!

Our summer adventures were just beginning.

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What now?

I’m sure everyone is wondering what the plan is now.  Our immediate plan includes five months in the halo or until Emmie is between 20 and 21 months.  She’ll then have surgery to place what Dr. C calls a “straw’ between either two or four vertebrae in the front of her spine.  They may or may not fuse the spine in the back for added stability.  They will go in to the front to do the work because that is where the bend is.

This is all up in the air but all the neurosurgeons agree that they do not want her in a halo past five months before she has surgery.  Once surgery is done, she’ll stay in a halo for about three months before they remove it.  Then three months after that, if she is stable, we are done with this part of NF.

Yep.  I said this part.  Remember, I said this was a marathon.  Unfortunately, NF is a progressive disorder.  But it is also unpredictable.  It is our understanding that we’ll be addressing the issue of plexiform growth after we get the spine situated and stable.  Of course, since all cases are unique and different, those plans may change too.

All we can do for now is enjoy our “new normal” and hang on and pray.  We may not know what in the world is coming at us next, but we do take great comfort that God knows it all and knew it all before we ever started this journey.

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With a Little Help

People want to know how in the world we are able to get up and go every day.  Well, honestly,  only through Christ.  Our faith keeps us going.  Knowing God has given us not one but eight little blessings (and a half…but we can’t do much with him back on his home soil…for now) that need our daily care…we sometimes survive on strength supplied by God alone.  Please know that we do have our moments of complete and utter surrender through tears.  Every one needs to cry sometimes.

That being said, God has also blessed us with amazing friends and family.  Truthfully, we claim most of our friends as family.  We had friends/family (isn’t that called framily?), come over while we were in the hospital.  Stripped the beds…which is never an easy task when the boys pile them high with their toys and possessions (aka junk)…and wash sheets.  They cleaned and scrubbed from top to bottom and Mark was able to come home to a nice clean home.

Other friends drove four hours to sit in a hospital room and grab food for you and watch Emmie on bathroom breaks.  They brought beautiful pictures to hang on her ceiling and sweet words of love and laughter.  Still other friends came over to pray over us and speak words of love, healing, and peace.  My aunt spent the day listening with me to doctors, preparing my food and even soothing Emmie so I could use the restroom and walk around.

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My sister and her husband took a day off of work to drive over and entertain Emmie.  They were blessed with being the first ones seeing her sporting her new headwear.  And, unfortunately, the first, ahem, stinky diaper (that diaper was the stinkiest to end all stinkies by the way).  IMG_20150819_150813_888 This was well before that diaper went off…obviously.  Aunt Yaya wasn’t green in these pictures.IMG_20150819_151217_647

 

My sister, aka Aunt Yaya,  also spent a Saturday entertaining my kids at Ge & Granddady’s house.  My niece and nephew had games planned and wrestled and laughed with them throughout the day and night.

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My parents drove over to the hospital a couple of days so I could take bathroom breaks and eat.

Both sets of parents were willing to let us invade with children for several days.  Feeding us both mentally, and physically.  IMG_20150815_075338_358

Friends who rearrange their schedule and let half the kids invade their brand new home while Mark brought us home from the hospital.

We have received a couple of monetary blessings which have allowed us to get a stroller that holds all of Emmie’s stuff, fits her comfortably and can even accommodate a protective three year old brother.  We were also able to get Emmie a wider car seat to keep her head from being too far from the back of the seat.

And now, we have not had to prepare a single supper since we have been home.  Blessed with meals that give us a chance to regroup and figure out this new normal.

I haven’t even begun on the excellent care we have received at CHOA.  Let me just say that PICU nurses are ah-maz-ing.  We had nary a one that I wouldn’t call absolutely precious (okay, there were the two that came in and did vitals every two hours during the night and then wanted to change her diaper while she was sleeping, but they even meant well).  One of our nurses even set a young doctor straight on the proper protocol to entering a room with a sleeping baby!  As a ever so slight and definitely not enough thank you, I brought them donuts.  They were pleased, I think.

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And Marks’ co-workers.  How can we ever thank them enough for how much they have cared for us and him?  It’s been overwhelming to see their outpouring of love and support.

Somehow, after all of that, how in the world do I say thank you and it be enough.  I don’t think I could ever do so.  But, we’ll try.  Thank you to our “framily” for standing beside us (and some of you for standing behind us to  hold us up).  Thank you to our nurses and doctors who work so hard to make sure Emmie gets the best care and was the most comfortable.

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Halo Procedure: the Summary

I’m still trying to process this month.  The whole entire month.  I have spent more days away from home this month than I have at home.

I know I have been absent but there has been a lot going on and several things that I probably won’t share for quite awhile.

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Waiting on the versed. That medicine is awesome in soothing her and giving us a few laughs before we had to say “see you soon.”

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I am learning the fine art of glove balloons. They worked this trip!

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Ah, versed! Emmie was relaxed and had to show her grandparents and daddy her belly button.

Emmie went in on August 13th for her halo procedure.  Surgery went smoothly with no complications.  After she went to recovery, they sent her to PICU.  She had to go there because of the sedation meds they kept her on while she was in traction.  We were told to go to PICU waiting room and that we could see her once she was ready.  Mark said we waited ten minutes but it felt like an eternity because we could hear her crying (okay, screaming) while they were getting her settled in.  The charge nurse came out to reassure us and let us know we could cuddle with her in bed.  That soothed my worries about not being able to hold her for three to four days (which actually turned in to more than that).

Once we got to see her, I climbed in to bed with her and grabbed her hands.  She calmed down immediately.  And that’s where Mark or I stayed for the next six days.

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Traction days were long and hard.  I had her during the day and Mark stayed with her at night.  That way, we were able to also divide up time with the other kids.  The time in the hospital was mainly spent soothing her, finding things to entertain her, and scooting her down the bed.

She was on sedation and pain meds.  The sedation meds were mainly to keep her calm not put her to sleep.  The pain meds helped tremendously when she would get another weight (five pounds in the end) added to her traction.

Whenever she was awake, we would get about ten minutes before we would have to call a nurse to hold the weights as we scooted her down the bed.  The weight from the traction and her wiggly self always seemed to find a way to the top of the bed.

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Before ipad contraption…she made do with our Kindle Fire.

By the second day, the nurses and I had decided that the white ceiling was not entertaining enough for a child who was stuck on her back.  We quickly dug through my hospital bag and grabbed the gel clings I had.  While the nurses spotted me, I stuck them up on the light over her bed.  That helped a bit.  By day four, my arms were sore from holding up the Kindle Fire we had brought.  Child Life Specialists came to the rescue with an iPad on a stand that flipped down for her viewing.  That thing saved all of us and for once, I cared not about how much screen time my kid was getting.  We passed the rest of the time with puppet shows, stuffed animal kisses, and bubbles.  If you’re really curious, Emmie’s go to videos on the iPad were videos about dogs with music included.  I think we watched ten hours of 20 Dog Breeds.

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She couldn’t eat while in traction because of the meds and her position but she got lipids and tpn that helped fill in empty calories.

Her PICC line was not successful in going in which meant daily blood draws were done quite painfully and often with two sticks before a good draw was done.

Our most memorable events included the iv.  Her PICC iv was actually used as a peripheral iv.  That just means that it was only used for meds.  It was basically a deep line iv.  I think on Saturday (days ran together), the iv connections snapped.  This was outside her body and caused her no health issues, but it did wake me up and cause a major mess.  Meds leaked all over her and the hospital bed.  It’s not particularly easy to change the sheets of a baby who has three pounds of weight attached to her head.  Our nurses worked for about thirty minutes to figure out exactly what needed to be done.   It took four nurses and me to get the sheets changed.  We also had a bit of help from the valium.  The nurses wanted her to be as comfortable as possible so she got a tad bit of valium to calm her while she was suspended above the bed.  One nurse held the weights.  One held Emmie’s head while another held her body.  That left two of us to quickly take the sheets off the bed and put new ones on.  Teamwork.  Important.

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Totally chilling. She loved crossing her legs and just relaxing.

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Snuggled time with a doggy that made it’s way in to our room.

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She made sure I didn’t go anywhere after Mark went back with the kids.

The other most heartbreaking and painful thing included her iv in her foot.  She had two ivs the PIV and then a standard one.  This helped her get all of her meds and calories from the tpn and lipids.  She started out with the regular iv in her arm but that one came out on Saturday.  So, they had to place one in her foot.  That iv was for her pain and sedation meds.  It worked great.  Until Monday.  As our nurse was finishing up her vitals and heading out, she happened to look at her iv site.  She had already checked it when she came in.  But, thankfully, she looked at it before leaving.  Emmie’s ankle was red, angry looking, swollen.  The iv had come out of her vein.  And gone in to her muscle.  That meant the sedation meds which were on a continuous drip, had gotten in to her muscles.  This could, potentially, cause a pretty serious infection.  Thankfully, after a lot of calls to the pharmacist and doctor, it was determined her sedation meds could also be given intramuscular.  We stopped worrying about a muscular infection, but, unfortunately, her ankle was deeply bruised and sore.  A week later, and she is finally not flinching and screaming when we barely touch it.  I think seeing her poor foot swollen and so hot to the touch was harder than the vest.  By the time this had happened, we knew the halo wasn’t hurting.  We were so grateful, though, for a very attentive nurse.

Emmie did great getting her halo on that Thursday afternoon.  She laughed, smiled, and pinched noses through the whole thing.  There were lots of loud noises and things going on that she couldn’t see.  We were so proud of how brave she was being.  She was helped a long quite a bit by a little bit of ativan.  It definitely calmed her nerves.  After the vest got on, we were working our way out of the PICU and down to a regular room and then out the doors to home.

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Super Sidekick R rocked it getting the brace on. I think we caught Emmie in a blink.

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Almost ready for Mama’s arms.

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A day later and just relaxing with the Graham. Cracker that is.

Nothing made our girl light up like watching her brothers and sisters on skype.  She truly loves her sidekicks and the feeling was definitely mutual.

I’ll share a bit more on her hospitalization over the next few days…what the plan is now, and a few pictures and thoughts on the whole thing.

 

 

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